10 Things You Can Do to Contribute to Internal, Interpersonal and
Organizational Peace.

1. Spend some time each day quietly reflecting on how you would
like to relate to yourself and others.
2. Remember that all human beings have the same needs.
3. Check your intention to see if you are as interested in others
getting their needs met as your own.
4. When asking someone to do something, check first to see if you
are making a request or a demand.
5. Instead of saying what you DON'T want someone to do, say what
you DO want the person to do.
6. Instead of saying what you want someone to BE, say what action
you'd like the person to take that you hope will help the person be
that way.
7. Before agreeing or disagreeing with anyone's opinions, try to
tune in to what the person is feeling and needing.
8. Instead of saying No, say what need of yours prevents you from
saying Yes.
9. If you are feeling upset, think about what need of yours is not
being met, and what you could do to meet it, instead of thinking
about what's wrong with others or yourself.
10. Instead of praising someone who did something you like, express
your gratitude by telling the person what need of yours that action
met.

The Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC) would like there to
be a critical mass of people using Nonviolent Communication so all
people will get their needs met and resolve their conflicts
peacefully.

© 2001 Gary Baran & CNVC The right to freely duplicate this document
is hereby granted.

Is it really possible to be over Starbucks?

I have always favored the mom and pop coffee shop over the chain but recently with the addition of children to my life relaxing in a coffee shop and people watching has been far from possible. Most of the Starbucks in Jacksonville have a drive thru which makes dining easy with kids secure in the Britax in the back seat. But the past couple times I have been "thru"...I haven't even found anything to get excited about on the menu what is a coffee lover to do? I would never remotely balk at the price like other coffee lovers who can swear by certain gas stations $.99 cup of Joe... But come on Starbucks give me something here to work with...
While this is my favorite coffee time of the year- I love the Pumpkin Spice Latte but even that seems boring these days...Kim and I loved the Green Tea Frapps last summer but this summer they had to go an add blackberries to it...You could request it minus the blackberry whatever but really why would you have wanted that in there anyway...Yuck!

PS on a little side note...We don't eat fast food alot so my children don't really recognize McDonald's or Burger King signs while we are driving but my 2 year old can spot a Starbucks a mile away and is already asks for his own cup.... Could mean trouble is a brewing (pun intended)

Don't hate me but I have good hair- I mean really good HAIR!

I say this because I am scared.

First off, I am really still shocked that I have such good hair because I have always had pretty bad skin even now I suffer from adult acne But really I can't remember the last time I have had a bad hair day. And I live in an area with about the worst water quality and most humidity possible. Not to mention I have permed, highlighted, colored, frosted, low lighted, straightened, bleached my hair pretty much since about the age of 5. I got the "Annie" perm first.

(BTW, Hair naturally a light brown color and straight!)

I say I am scared because of the recent work status change I am forced to change hair products. See I think while good hair comes from good genes (Thanks MOM!) I also believe good hair comes from expensive hair care products. For as long as I can remember I used Aveda. LOVE IT! But then about 2 years ago I switched to something all organic b/c I read some horrible stuff about Sodium Laurel Sulfates (pardon the spelling) So all organic it was- Nothing I couldn't pronounce was going on this noggin. And Oh how I loved it but this organic shampoo and condition comes with a price about $16 a bottle. And the bottle is not gallon sized.

It just so happened I ran out of the shampoo and conditioner at approximately the same time I quit my job.... GASP! What is a girl to do!
Now I know Chris wouldn't even bat an eyelash if I went out and bought "my beloved shampoo"
But I can't for the life of me do it. So Hold your breath again- I have become a SUAVE GIRL!
all of $1.92 a bottle at Target. And mind you the bottle is bigger than the organic bottle.

I have been using the suave for about a month now- and no back lash yet- We have entered a less humid time here in Jacksonville if that is possible and I am really watching what I eat b/c of baby #3 but only time will tell if the girl who has always had good hair can keep her reputation....