10 Things You Can Do to Contribute to Internal, Interpersonal and
Organizational Peace.

1. Spend some time each day quietly reflecting on how you would
like to relate to yourself and others.
2. Remember that all human beings have the same needs.
3. Check your intention to see if you are as interested in others
getting their needs met as your own.
4. When asking someone to do something, check first to see if you
are making a request or a demand.
5. Instead of saying what you DON'T want someone to do, say what
you DO want the person to do.
6. Instead of saying what you want someone to BE, say what action
you'd like the person to take that you hope will help the person be
that way.
7. Before agreeing or disagreeing with anyone's opinions, try to
tune in to what the person is feeling and needing.
8. Instead of saying No, say what need of yours prevents you from
saying Yes.
9. If you are feeling upset, think about what need of yours is not
being met, and what you could do to meet it, instead of thinking
about what's wrong with others or yourself.
10. Instead of praising someone who did something you like, express
your gratitude by telling the person what need of yours that action
met.

The Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC) would like there to
be a critical mass of people using Nonviolent Communication so all
people will get their needs met and resolve their conflicts
peacefully.

© 2001 Gary Baran & CNVC The right to freely duplicate this document
is hereby granted.